As a relationship coach, I will work with you to create a successful relationship in your life. You can work one-on-one with me or in conjunction with your partner. You might work to improve communication, develop better strategies, create a more loving connection, more authenticity or increase intimacy.
Coach Michael and Dr. Cherie Carter-Scott have been romantically linked and married for over 24 years. They live an authentic life together follow their ten rules for a healthy and loving relationship.
Resource Book: If Love Is A Game, These Are the Rules, Ten Rules for Finding Love and Creating Long-Lasting Authentic Relationships by Dr. Cherie Carter‑Scott, MCC
When Cherie finished this amazing book about love, I had no idea that she would dedicate it to me. The two of us have been on a journey and we finally found each other to share our compassion and compatibility with each other.
We can design what is the perfect relationship in your coaching session.
What’s in the way and what are the blocks?
What are the qualities you seek in a partner?
What is Authentic Love?
Authentic love is choosing your partner exactly as he is; it is putting your energy behind your choice and causing the relationship to be magical, rather than searching for reasons why it can’t work. Love is supporting your partner in her choices, urging her to fulfill her heart’s desires and go for all of her dreams.
Authentic love is honoring your partner’s truth and wanting the very best for him. It is not controlling or possessing but rather respecting and trusting his unique path in life. Love is the courage to tell the truth especially when you believe it is unspeakable.
What does an authentic relationship look like? It looks and feels real. It thrives on honesty and shimmers with truth. An authentic relationship flexes and bends with the fluctuating needs and changes of each partner and gracefully weathers hardships. Both partners are committed to the growth and evolution of both individuals in their respective life paths. Much like the diamond used symbolically to represent the bond of matrimony, an authentic relationship sparkles with brilliance and light while maintaining a solid and enduring core. It is the context in which true love was meant to exist.
Of course, this is the ideal. The real fun and opportunity lies in reaching for such a vision. If Love Is a Game, These Are the Rules will give you the tools you need along the way as you learn how to win at love.
If Love Is A Game, These Are the Rules
by Dr. Cherie Carter‑Scott, MCC (sampling of the ten chapters).
RULE 1: YOU MUST LOVE YOURSELF FIRST
Your relationship with yourself is the central template from which all others are formed. Loving yourself is a prerequisite to creating a successful and authentic union with another.
RULE 2: PARTNERING IS A CHOICE
The choice to be in a relationship is up to you. You have the ability to attract your beloved and cause the relationship you desire to happen.
RULE 3: CREATING LOVE IS A PROCESS
Moving from “T’ to “we ” requires a shift in perspective and energy. Being an authentic couple is an evolution.
RULE 4: RELATIONSHIPS PROVIDE OPPORTUNITIES TO GROW
Your relationship will serve as an unofficial “life-shop” in which you will learn about yourself and how you can grow on your personal path.
RULE 5: COMMUNICATION IS ESSENTIAL
The open exchange of thoughts and feelings is the lifeblood of your relationship.
RULE 6: NEGOTIATION WILL BE REQUIRED
There will be times when you and your partner must work through impasses. If you do this consciously and with respect, you will learn to create win‑win outcomes.
RULE SEVEN: YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL BE CHALLENGED BY CHANGE
Life will present turns in the road. How you maneuver those twists and turns determines the success of your relationship.
RULE 8: YOU MUST NURTURE THE RELATIONSHIP FOR IT TO THRIVE
Treasure your beloved and your relationship will flourish.
RULE 9: RENEWAL IS THE KEY TO LONGEVITY
Happily ever after means the ability to keep the relationship fresh and vital.
RULE 10: YOU WILL FORGET ALL THIS THE MOMENT YOU FALL IN LOVE
You know all these rules inherently. The challenge is to remember them when you fall under the enchanting spell of love.